If you're anything like me, your greatest source of frustration is your inability to make a decision!
This week I want to lean into the most common cause of suffering that I've experienced first hand and is extremely common for the women I work with as well.
This sneaky self-preserving paradigm (or pattern) that causes our deepest suffering is CONFUSION (aka lack of clarity).
And if you aren't clear (wink wink) on what I mean by this, let me ask you a few questions:
Are you suffering from the paralysis of indecision?
Do you decide one second and then a moment later take it back and change your mind?
Are you absolutely discombobulated and can't even distinguish right or wrong anymore?
So now that we cleared that up, let's get into the conversation about what confusion is all about.
I was on my own coaching call with my personal mentor, Mary Morrissey, last week and she shared some insight around, what I like to call, the art of confusion.
Mary explained that we are all spiritual beings having a human experience. In order to move forward, you must resonate with this truth. So let me say it again, we are all spiritual beings having a human experience.
With that said, at the level of spirit, our soul is never confused. I'll repeat that once more as well. OUR SOUL IS NEVER CONFUSED.
So why then do we experience confusion in this human experience you ask?
Well, here's the thing... (I need you to follow me closely here)
If you know what you want, which you do at your core,
Then you would know what you need to to.
But since you DO NOT want to DO what you need to do, knowing what you know,
Your mind plays a simply yet profound trick on you, in order to stall and preserve the status quo.
"What does that mean?" you might be asking.
Well, I could go on for days on this topic, but to keep this GEMM short and to the point, the simple yet profound trick that our mind plays on us IS the Art of Confusion!
Our mind simply says, "I don't know." And it is in our human nature to pause and ponder until we know. And with that my friends, you are now fully aware that your in ability to decide or lack of clarity that you have is simply a delay tactic deployed because ultimately...
You FEAR the CONSEQUENCES of your ACTIONS.
And to be even more honest with you...
It might mean you have to enforce a boundary that you set with your partner (i.e. take a break, walk away, or even leave the relationship) when deep down inside you don't want to hurt them.
It might mean you have to do something scary that you've never done before (i.e. post a video for the first time, decide to quit your job, or even explore a vulnerable side of yourself) and fear the rejection or loss of security.
It might mean you have to take ownership for a repeating pattern in your life (i.e. recurring relationship challenges, lack of action, or even going back to old people, places, and things) and are scared to enter into that dark place in fear of never getting out of it.
So let me leave you with this...
Breathe - take a deep breath, in through your nose and out through your mouth.
Remember - you are a spiritual being having a human experience.
Know - the content of your life IS the curriculum of your evolution. (Mary Morrissey)
Listen - your voice of intuition is never frantic or rushed. You are your highest authority - you are the only one who has the answer you seek. Look and listen within yourself for your answer and TRUST your inner voice of truth.
Decide - just choose. No matter what you choose, it will move the stagnant energy and allow the next step to be revealed. The catch to all of this is inaction and indecision leads to greater and greater confusion. Decide and TAKE ACTION today!
I believe in you! So believe in my belief. If you have the willingness to be transformed through this time of challenge, it will happen. And remember, as another mentor of mine, Kirsten Welles, always says, this is what it looks like when it's all working out!
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